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What do you mean by being successful?

In becoming successful what are all the 6 questions to be asked yourself are discussed here in this article. Well, becoming successful is what one craves for. Everyone wants to be successful in their lives, goals to achieve, a lifestyle to live,  aim to look ahead.Being successful means the achievement of desired visions and planned goals. Furthermore, success can be a certain social status that describes a prosperous person who could also have gained fame for its favorable outcome. The dictionary describes success as the following: “attaining wealth, prosperity and/or fame”. Without success, there would be no meaning to life, Success draws us to strive hard in a particular field.

Is becoming successful important?

That may vary from person to person, but, without it, there would be no ambition to live for, and without ambition, life would feel sluggish. The real meaning of life comes with enjoying big things, but to enjoy those little things, you have to be financially stable, and when it comes to stability, that is where success enters in. So let us now look at a few questions which we should ask ourselves in becoming successful.

1)What is my unique ability?

So, you must be wondering what your ability has to do with making you successful? Well, if you don’t allow yourself to know what you master at, how will you know what path you have to choose? Even after you’ve chosen a path, would that make you happy? That’s where ability comes in. You might be able to do multiple tasks, or you might be jacked from all games. e.g: you are good at writing, talking, swimming. But that doesn’t really mean that you are able at it, that you do your best at it. There are a bunch of people out there who are good at that, but what makes you able is that, after cutting it all down, the ability to stand out among the 1000s. Being that 1001, with the ability to be better than the rest, is what makes you able to achieve your target, helping you get one step closer to success. It might not pop out at you out of a time machine, or you might not really know what you are good at, but constantly working on your skills would over time make you realize your ability. That’s where my ability comes in handy. You might be a good singer, but do you have the confidence in standing before a crowd and singing that one chorus and being applauded without a flaw. Well, if you do have that ability, bravo you’re good to go. That would make you successful because you like it, and you have the confidence to take it before people. Work on your ability, build it, flourish with it. That should be your long-term goal. In becoming successful this is one of the major important question to be asked yourself.

Every single day, ask yourself, “What is the one thing that I can do that no one else can?”

2) What am I confident in achieving?

Bring confidence in you, that makes you different from others, I know there’s this pop up suddenly in your head saying, what does she even mean by bring confidence? Well, by that I meant, don’t just listen to people and get boisterous, that’s the external factor, The factor that really matters is confidence, and by confidence I don’t mean to say, get there on the stage and show that you’re a top class speaker, No that’s not what I meant. What I mean by bringing in confidence is that whatever you want to pursue, practice it wholly and solely and that is something that will automatically build in confidence within you when you go out there in front of a crowd, you know what you have to do, because you have practiced that one act multiple times and that’s what would let you be confident out there. Successful people tend to be self-aware, and it’s likely that they’ve already given this question some thought. You might expect to hear about preventing some mistake or failure, but successful people know that mistakes and failure are among our greatest teachers. Many wished they had taken more chances and been bolder and more confident.

Confidence is something that you develop, something you wear invisibly within you and that comes with practice. 

3) What was the hardest decision you ever had to make?

When you know you want to become something in life which applies to everyone. Every individual wants to become something in life, but there comes a stage where you have to choose between a straight line and a twisted curve. Sacrifice is one of the terms I would use because, when you’re working towards your goals, you always focus on the long term and the long term involves sacrifices, risks, time in order to achieve those goals that you have set for yourself. That’s probably the hardest decision that you take, but slicing it down, the hardest decision you make is ‘sacrifice’. Your sacrifice would consist of your time with your family, with your friends, your loved ones, so that you can achieve what you desire. It need not necessarily be that you have to sacrifice everything, but when it comes to living an employment life, there are struggles, there are certain things that we have to follow in order to get where we see ourselves. Therefore, most successful people have had to make at least a few genuinely difficult decisions between-a-rock-and-a-hard-place. Learning what they chose, and why, gives you a close look at their thought processes and priorities, helping you prepare for the tough decisions that lie down the road for you. At the end of the day, it’s in your moments of decisions that your success is shaped. Think of it this way: Making a hard decision now and implementing it, or going with the flow and realizing later that I should have made a hard decision then. 

4)  If you could start all over again, what would you do differently to get closer to becoming successful?

To this, I would say, it is never too late to bloom. What I mean by this is, when we think of the beginning, of developing something new, often what comes to mind is a young person with their whole life ahead of them, but this is only prejudiced. We all have the ability to make a new start in life, regardless of age. Even an elderly person can decide to wipe the slate clean and reinvent themselves, because they too have a life to lead.

Defying the conventional wisdom that intellectual growth reaches its height in young adults and that once we reach maturity, it declines with age, some individuals never cease to improve and renew, always using the wisdom they have gained to take another step toward new challenges. 

Think for yourself, go back in time and ask yourself what you could, I have done differently, For me, it would definitely be sleeping, I would sleep less work on being productive, since sleeping for long hours only means wasting time on something that is not going to help you achieve anything. 

5) What kind of a career would give me growth in terms of success?

Growth is the most significant and most powerful tool in working towards success. I see many people struggling in their careers on basic growth in terms of their work. I would say in terms of growth, it’s very important to gain mindfulness in the field you’ve entered. Growth definitely comes with time, upgrade, practice, but the most required is your state of mind. When you are mindful, you are fully aware of your surroundings and of yourself in the present. Mindfulness increases the time that you swim with your head above the water, when you can see both potential dangers and pleasures. When you are mindful, you are aware of your position and your destination. You can make corrections to your path and that in itself leads you towards growth. Now that you’re mindful, reflect, acknowledge, embrace your failures, make a list on how it is that you would work on growth. 

Try this: create a diary where you jot down the areas that you feel negative. Next, try to write 1 positive step that will help you grow. The next time, you know what you really have to work on. 

6) What Are the changes I should make right now to help me get closer to my success?

This question is appropriate to ask of someone who’s already familiar with you and your work. Improvement requires change, and sometimes the hardest part knows what needs to change.

According to what I see, our emotions hold us back from what we want to achieve, why? I’ll tell you. 

So, our sadness, our fear, our anger are all traits that hold us back. It’s because we focus so much on the whereabouts of our emotions that we lose focus on whom we really want to be. I am not saying emotions aren’t important, what I am emphasizing on are 3 emotions in bold letters. Now let’s talk about it: 

a)Sadness– This emotion often stems from a sense of loss, in a broad array of situations. We feel sadness when we lose a loved one. We also feel sad when we lose a useful or valuable object, like when our income is reduced. There is also a more existential kind of sadness, which invites us to reflect, such as when we lose hope or the will to live for no apparent reason and find ourselves in a state of apathy that leaves us diminished. 

b)Fear:Also, is an emotion closely connected to our survival instinct and serves to warn us of threats or potential harm. When human beings lived in the jungle, fear was essential for detecting imminent danger and preparing our bodies to fight or flee.

c) As with anger: In addition to being socially undesirable, the problem with anger is that it is rarely linked to any real threat, given these days, except in extraordinary circumstances where we find ourselves as victims.  

So, what I mean by highlighting fear, anger and sadness is that, from a psychological point of view, researchers point out that these emotions cause us a pattern of mental disability which somehow holds us back from goals. 

  • That’s why it’s said, realize that your emotions shouldn’t over power you. 

Most successful people are grateful for what they’ve achieved, and many are happy to share their knowledge and experience. It’s too good a resource to waste, so be prepared to make the most out of every encounter, especially with those you admire.

In addition, I would want to close with a quote that has really inspired me: “Success is not final; failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts.”So, keep continuing your journey towards becoming successful. 

– Celeste D’sa

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